Lance Hedrick - review of the VOSTOCK

Cuprajake

Thats a pity if lance hedrick isnt posting anymore here…Was there some posts that have been removed from this thread that I didn’t see? Where did this exchange of posts happen?

chlorox I think it was on the “Gorilla Gear” for the Niche thread. As far as I know, all still there.

In the gorilla gears thread

Agree shame for THIS forum

We can’t all agree all the time, but it doesn’t help when people app from THIS forum are telling tales.

Cheez Louise. This is getting unbelievable.

Cuprajake Lance is completely right though, i blocked that user on cfuk and I blocked him on here so I thankfully don’t have to read those posts. It can make following a thread challenging sometimes though.

Think there’s a huge difference between having a disagreement with a forum member and then publicly slating a forum and calling it toxic, especially when you have the level of following Lance has. Pretty uncalled for. For what it’s worth, I thought Lance had handled the situation well on here, but there was absolutely no need for what he’s done on Instagram.

IMHO, subsequent posts went too far and not drawing a line. The insta post was shocking. 🤷🤦‍♂️

Let’s move on please!

punkypj best way, if you’re not a fan, just block its what i do

re my post sometime humor doesn’t come across in typing, my post was tongue in cheek, i didn’t for one second even think about previous history as that was nearly 2 years ago. and something i thought had finally settled down, sadly i see that its still very alive and kicking.

i thought the forum was nice, friendly and very active, maybe people don’t want that or dont want that to succeed, i dunno, its really soured the whole experience for me, if people feel i was part of it, i apologize, nothing i say is done with any intention to hurt people, i genuinely try to help people when i can, you know like giving free stuff away 🥰

Coffeetime was set up precisely to avoid what happened on CFUK - I was a moderator on that forum until it was sold to the Canadian company. So, I am in a unique position knowing what was happening both front of house and behind the scenes. Sadly, narratives got pushed, stretched and, at times, misrepresented and distorted.

We don’t want or need that on this forum.

love how im getting singled out here,

but im getting to the stage of not caring now - im off for now

Cuprajake

That was not my intention at all Jake! I know that was not your intention - but I am offering an explanation why Hedrick was not calmed down but was evidently made even more angry…

Cuprajake I don’t think you are the main focus of this discussion jake, maybe I missed something though.

This is all just really sad, there are no winners and a real tragedy for the coffee community as there is just so much knowledge over all 3 sites that has now been diluted . Like a good pour over, the silt at the bottom should be left to settle and agitation kept to a minimum or else everything becomes soured and bitter. I’m not passing judgement on any comments but Putin could drop a bomb on us tomorrow and that would be a tragedy as I have a nice Ethiopian that’s waiting in the wings!

chlorox The father is from Cyprus …. surprise, sur😀prise

Like @punkypj I have had him blocked for a while.
This forum has provided many a useful post and helpful person. I was lucky to interact with those people way before my interaction with said user.

Moderation of a forum doesn’t have to be a dictatorship like your previous forum, but having it completely open to people saying and doing whatever doesn’t always have the “welcome” doormat you hope.

I’ll go back to lurking, but I think disagreeing and ignoring are 2 very different things.

My 2 cents. You don’t have to engage with somebody on a forum if you don’t want to. You don’t have to take the bait. Some people are very conflict-driven and thrive off of it so it’s always going to be a losing battle trying to engage with them if you just want peace. You are the only person with the ability to control your emotions as you are the only person who can control your thoughts; if you find yourself on the receiving end of comments aimed at you on a forum, before you reply consider what you have to gain and if replying is in line with your reasons for visiting the forum in the first place, if not then simply ignore, don’t let your thoughts wander into areas you don’t want them to. We’re adults and really should have the mental strength and discipline to choose our interactions in an online space; meeting in the real world is not quite the same.

As for Lance’s claim that somebody had to seek therapy because of things DFK said to them. There’s typically only one person who knows why somebody is seeking therapy and that’s the therapist. I find it unlikely somebody has ever required therapy for something that was said to them online by somebody they have either never met or only met briefly; far more likely there are underlying causes the person seeking therapy may not even be consciously aware of. Children who are constantly bullied at school and continue to experience that bullying online is another matter.

Anyway, enough of this for me.